To keep the fire burning brightly there's one easy rule: Keep the two logs together, near enough to keep each other warm and far enough apart - about a finger's breadth - for breathing room. Good fire, good marriage, same rule. ~Marnie Reed Crowell
Educational & Erotic Resources
Even the happiest marriages, with two healthy, willing partners find changes in their desire as we age. If both partners are comfortable with this, then all is well. If one partner is disappointed by the lack of interest or feeling rejected by the other partner, we can find marital discord.
Like everything worth having, a healthy sex life into our later decades takes effort. Below are some professionally recommended resources to help jumpstart your libido. Any effort, new ideas are heartening to both partners who are looking for new ways to express love and intimacy. Good luck!
Sex Education Books
• 100 Questions & Answers about Women’s Sexual Wellness and Vitality by Michael L. Krychman, MD
• Becoming Orgasmic: A Sexual and Personal Growth Program for Women by Julia Heiman, PhD, Joseph LoPiccolo, PhD, and David Palladini
• For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality by Lonnie Barbach, PhD
• Getting the Sex You Want: A Woman’s Guide to Becoming Proud, Passionate, and Pleased in Bed by Sandra Leiblum, PhD
• The G Spot: And Other Discoveries about Human Sexuality by Alice Khan Ladas, EdD, Beverly Whipple, PhD, and John D. Perry, PhD
• The Joy of Sex by Alex Comfort, PhD, DSc
• Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships by David Schnarch, PhD
• She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Ian Kerner, PhD
Instructional Videos
• The Better Sex Video Series from the Sinclair Institute, featuring real couples with advice from sex therapists; available at www.bettersex.com.
– Volume 1: Advanced Sexual Techniques & Positions
– Volume 2: Adult Sex Education about 22 Sex Secrets, Tips & Turn-ons
– Volume 3: Adult Sex Education about Erotic Sex Play & Beyond
Erotic Reading
• Bedtime Stories for Lovers by Joan Elizabeth Lloyd
• The Erotic Edge: 22 Erotic Stories for Couples edited by Lonnie Barbach
• Herotica: A Collection of Women’s Erotic Fiction edited by Susie Bright
• The Mammoth Book of Best New Erotica series edited by Maxim Jakubowski
Sexual Accessories, Vibrators, and Sex Toys
• Eve’s Garden, www.evesgarden.com/shop, 800-848-3837
• Good Vibrations, www.goodvibes.com, 800-289-8423
* Recommended by sexual medicine experts Susan Kellogg-Spadt, CRNP, PhD and Michael Krychman, MD. (from Association of Reproductive Health Professionals, arhp.org.)
"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years." ~ Simone Signoret
